Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Love Stinks!

...especially at Christmas time. I think I'm depressed. I'm stuck in a half-way house of unrequited (spectacular)love. 

What do you do when a man says he loves you but does not show it in a way that you want?
What do you do when you know that this man can never show you the kind of love you expect from a relationship?
What do you do when you can't step away from this kind of love?
...you find yourself sticking around, hoping that this kind of love will get better, this man will give more; give you what you deserve.

But you know that this kind of love is less than your standards, it is below par, it is not a consuming-type of love...it is just average...nothing spectacular, it's not that make-you-wanna-dance-in-the-streets type of love. It is disappointing.

Love stinks!

He said: ...what do you want?
She said: ...I just want love. Is that too much to ask?!

They say you have to give love to get love. Well, I've been giving and giving, when will I get mine? I've been giving you this love since for a longtime. The magnitude of my love -giving was so much more than you could ever match up. You only gave a little, and a little more, then only a little more - nothing compared to the magnitude of the self-sacrificing love I gave you.

So on the eve of 2010, I'm turning the taps off. I'm going to give less & less of this love, until I stop giving  completely. If you will not match my magnitude with gratitude, I will not accommodate your ineptitude. 


Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Madre, please can I have some more?

In the spirit of the holidays; Thanksgiving/Christmas, you should know that I like to eat. I'm not just a food lover; I will only eat good food. If it's healthy, tasty & visually appealing. I get annoyed when food is tasteless or bland. I have even been known to get nauseous when food is pepperless or cold.

So this entry is dedicated to all my food-lovers out there. Those who can truly bask in the delight & afterglow of a good meal. So enjoy it folks. But all I have to give is - VISUAL STIMULATION!

...Anya xo

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Thoughts on Dating: Part II


men! men!! men!!! i don't understand why i even bother creating the environment for something magical to happen. so remember the guy I talked about from my previous post, yeah well so he asked me out. it wasn't too formal or anything. we just thought to grab a bite, something quick to eat on one of those chilly nights. well, we went and grabbed a bunch of stuff: pizza, chicken wings, cheese bread, beer. nothing fancy. we were basically going to pig out on my couch in front of the TV and play a few video games - nothing slightly even romantic. anyway, by the time we get home - my apartment is basically charging from all the electricity going between the 2 of us, too much sexual tension but we chill out, eat, talk, play games, talk some more.

And then all of a sudden, it vanishes. all the sparks i was feeling just die out. i mean completely DEAD. i don't even know how it happened. whether it was in the conversation, or i got bored (me sef!) or what, but there was nothing by the end of the night. dude has officially been put in the friendship stable.
So then weird turn of events, last week I found out that he has started seeing someone else. A white girl in the GTA (greater toronto area). And guess what, I get jealous! outta no where. i'm calculating in my head tryna figure out when they started seeing each other and if there was any overlap with our "date" night. it was weird. so i snap out of it & tell myself that I basically shunned the man after our date because i was only looking to flirt with him for a few weeks but then why was i getting all territorial & sh!t. anyway...i'm officially done with men for 2009. I have no intention of making "connections" or any of that other bullshit associated with playing the field for the rest of this year. Right now, i'll just look forward to Christmas and New Year's. It's going to be major this year. i'll tell you details later!

Anya xo

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Thoughts on Dating

Hey Ladies (& Gents), I have questions!

Do you engage in 'self-sabotage'? Self-sabotage is when you're creating additional mental stress for yourself when there's none. It's like adding extra drama to your life when there really isn't any.

OK, so there's this new crush in my apt. building who I'm loving liking a lot. He's got an athletic build & the dreamiest grey eyes & dark brown/blondish hair. He's so smart & intellectual (my type) but not too tall. Anyway, we've been flirting back & forth & I know there's definitely chemistry but now i'm stomped. I've started acting all weird & sh!t just because I have acknowledged to myself the fact that I like him.

For example, the other day while I was doing laundry downstairs in my pyjamas (tank top & sweat pants - no bra! and my nipples were charging) he came down to do his load as well. We got talking about a lot of things like his horses, family cottage, etc. It was a good conversation but I caught him looking several times! Anyway, this incident just happened - I don't walk around bra-less all the time with charging nipples. LOL>>> but I love the attention I'm getting from him but I also need to keep it cool & stop over-doing it with the flirting. He's a great guy & I wouldn't mind a few dates; nothing serious. I'm not really looking for a relationship right now.

So my dear ladies who have mastered the art of seduction, how do you reel a guy in without being so obvious that you're reeling him in? Or guys, how do you like to be reeled in?

And how do you play it cool without engaging in self-sabotage?

Saturday, October 24, 2009

New Moons & Changing Seasons

It's that time of the year again. When the weather throws off its summer warmth to embrace the Winter chill. Everything is changing. These days, it's wet and rainy, the temperature is about 5°C on average, and daylight is fast fleeting. This is a signal that I will be spending countless hours on graduate school work in the library, getting too little sleep, and probably gaining 2-4 lbs from my current sedentary lifestyle.

So to remain my fabulous self, my top 10 strategies for the next few months for beautiful hair, skin, mind, & body are:

1. For the body, get back to the Gym. I plan to work out 3 days a week of cardio & strength-training, plus 2 days of Hot Yoga to stay in good shape. This work-out plan cannot be over-stressed. It's the only way to bust that insulating winter fat!

2. For natural hair, it is the season to maintain a steady regime with a good conditioner (weekly) and a deep conditioner (every 2 weeks). I just picked up Organic Root Stimulator's 'Hair Mayonnaise' to use with my heating cap for about 30 minutes after each wash. These same rules apply for relaxed hair which needs an extra dose of conditioning with protein treatments to fortify over-processed strands.

3. I will be reverting to regular autumn/winter hair care regime of frequent scalp massages with olive oil, using a leave-in conditioner like Infusium 23 for moisture, sealing the hair with unrefined shea butter, and reduce manipulating the hair to retain growth and avoid unnecessary breakage/shedding.

4. Don't forget weekly manicures to keep nails & hands looking fresh & classy despite the frostiness outside.

5. Winter hair removal: remember to Pluck/Thread/Wax eyebrows once they grow out of place. Nicely groomed brows frame your face and give you a cleaner appearance. Every month I get my brows threaded by an Indian lady for only $4. Then as the weeks go by, I pluck/tweeze any stray hairs that are growing outside the outline she created.
As for body hair, I use depilatory creams on my armpits weekly. And shave my legs to the winter-drop point just above my knees because I won't be wearing anything shorter than that length anyway. Personally, I don't think there's any point obsessing about female body hair once it gets colder because the tights/pantyhose come out of the closet and the frilly dresses & tube-tops return to the summer vault for storage!

6. Remember to take your Multivitamins. There are some good brands out there like One a Day Women & Centrum. Or even some generic ones are relatively good too. Just ensure they provide you with a good dose of the essentials like Calcium, Magnesium, Folic Acid, the Vitamin Bs & Vitamin D. For my darker-skinned sisters (& brothers) , if you live in a temperate climate, Vitamin D is particularly essential for you because since there's less sunlight with shorter days and longer nights, you can't quite absorb as much Vit. D as you need, so you need to get it somehow.

And for my sisters with heavy periods, try to replenish your body stores of iron after each period by increasing your intake of foods iron-rich such as: spinach, beef liver, iron-fortified cereals, or 1 tbsp of blackstrap molasses.

7. Remember to drink enough water. I don't aim for the 8 glasses a day rule...but I drink atleast 5 tall glasses of water everyday. I remind myself to drink water by making sure that I take atleast 5 gulps of water before I eat anything, even snacks.

8. Make out time to Pray/Meditate at least once everyday. If you don't have a close relationship with God, develop one. Or if you don't believe in God, meditate on yourself & try to grasp at your inner essence. Whatever you do, enjoy stillness and silence. Take time to re-evaluate your life. Ask yourself those deep questions like Who am I? Where am I going? How are my thoughts affecting my actions? How are my actions affecting others?

9. Say 'YES!' to new experiences. You're never to busy to try out something different/challenging/exciting. Dare to explore uncharted territory. Try something you've always wanted to do: you wanted to visit a small-town gallery, Do It! you wanted to rent-a-car and drive to New York, Do It! you wanted to join the rowing team on campus, Do It! One thing I am still learning is that life will never hand you 'special' time, saying "here, this is for you to live out your desires". You have to take it & do it BY FORCE!

10. Ultimately, Stay Positive. Remember to look on the bright side. Don't be too critical or judgemental about people. Don't be too gullible. Don't be too cheap. Don't be too extravagant. Be humble, be sincere, guard your personal integrity, and never stop discovering yourself.

Anya xo

P.S: What are you doing to stay fresh this season?

I took these photos a few days ago
...don't you just love these changing seasons!

Sunday, October 18, 2009

I'll Never Forget You

I'll never forget you..
They said we'd never make it..
My sweet joy..
Always remember me..

Tonight I got one of those moments when all of a sudden memories of your ex come rushing back at you outta nowhere. I swear I'm not getting my period anytime soon, so you can rule out PMS. But these memories were so happy & sad & intense. I even found myself going through old emails, old photos, and old jokes. I was chuckling to myself like a bleating goat. It was stupid hilarious. But before I get all comfortable with these memories, I'll go & read my journal to remind myself of all the wonderful reasons I broke up with said ex to reinforce my brick wall of indifference!

And watch this video from the Noisettes. And look at lead singer, Shingai Shoniwa's natural hair! She is absolutely gorgeous.

Friday, October 16, 2009

I must Confess...

I have not been keen on blogging lately. As some of you noticed, its been easier for me to put up snippets of Youtube videos or other random stuff I've found interesting on this space. But on that desire to continue blogging fully, it has evaded me.

So what makes a good blog into a great blog?

1. Is it the copious amounts of random information you're willing to share with potential readers?

2. Is it about how often you're able to post?

3. Is it the amount of personal stories & secrets confesssions you're able to share?

4. Is it the extent of your fabrications; mixing reality with fiction?

5. Or is it your brutal honesty to say what you want UNEDITED?

I ask this final question because sometimes honesty is not always sexy. For instance, you're writing a very sexy story about your weekend with so-so. It starts out looking very steamy. He comes over. You watch a movie. Your foreplay begins. He goes down on you. You go down on him. Then he slips on a condom & slides it in.

In terms of honesty, you feel you should share the real details of your sexcapades. But for sexy-time sake, you forget refuse to include the fact that you've only been seeing this guy for 2 weeks & you're already giving up the pussy tsk tsk: whore!. Or it slips your mind to tell us that while he was riding away, you had already cum 10 mins earlier and wished he'd just cum already. Or to add that the condom broke and now you're screwed because you're not on the pill and you're not even into him like that (um...Plan B to the rescue, ladies).

I'm not going to make this space a revelation of my quite adventurous sexual past. But sometimes it seems to me that sex sells makes a good read. Either way, I have put the past behind me and decided to remain abstinent for as long as it takes, so help me GOD!

So what makes a good blog into a great blog?

I know that we all have different lives & imaginations. You're not just about Sex. Or about Fashion. Or about Politics. Or about Music. You've got so much to talk about.

So my fellow bloggers, why do you blog about what you blog about?

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

JJC - We are Africans

It has a great beat with potentially controversial lyrics but great song still. I love when that Jamaican dude starts his rap. FIYAAH!

Check it.

Thursday, September 24, 2009


This is a photo of Nneka (singer of Heartbeats & Walking) by Salena. [Click here to check out Salena's Myspace]. Nneka appeals to me. She seems real, raw, likable and worth keeping an eye on in this age of new Nigerian/Global music.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Life in the fast lane

My fieldwork is going great. I haven't had the chance to update as much as I wanted. But I've taken the time to check out a few of my favourite blogs. I've even commented on some of them. So not to worry, in my spare time I have been lurking in the shadows of blogville ;)

I bet you're all doing Fabulous! The summer is over - completely unbelievable. 3 months gone down the drains of time. Bet you made the most of it, because I sure did. This hiatus was incredible. I've put up photos on facebook & I'll try to put up a few on here too ;)

So till next time beautiful people, have a great evening.


Hilltop in Bauchi State, Nigeria
Photo Credit: Amos Tanga

Friday, June 12, 2009

yet another Hiatus

My Beloved, it's that time of the year again, when I have to leave the civilities of this industrial life and head out to forage in the jungle. I'm joking. I'm going to Nigeria and Western Cameroon until September for my graduate research.

I may only have minimal access to the Internet during this time because i'll be working in very rural areas so I won't be posting up too many entries.

Anyway, no matter where I am, i'll make sure to find a cinema on JULY 15th. Because "The Half Blood Prince" comes to life! HARRY POTTER 6.


Ah well, I'll be back, I promise.

Have a great summer everyone. Later.

Love, Anya

Sunday, June 7, 2009

It's the Weekend!

I love this song ... it makes me smile in a sad way.

Today was a good day. I felt happiness, loneliness, joy, peace, & purpose. Life is too short to dwell on past mistakes. This is Anya, keeping it moving thru 2009. This is my life. I am making it happen.

xo Anya

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Natural Hair

I love the way natural African hair looks & feels. By natural, I mean hair that has not been chemically altered or relaxed. I love the various textures and tones of this type of hair. Check out this video from 'The Coil Review'. Hot stuff.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

I was bitten

by the twitter bug!

All this virtual follow follow is quite silly actually.

But lemme go recruit some followers from my facebook!

xo Anya

P.s: I'm not ready to go public yet. So I will not be sharing my Twitter info with my Blogville family. I'm sorry y'all but my real life takes precedence. But you know I got mad virtual love for y'all ;)

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Tunnel Vision

I have a valid excuse for being MIA. I've been swamped with work on my thesis. Grad school is no joke. Right now, I'm working on my 'literature review' & hoping I can get it all done by the weekend. I think i'll need Sunday off to myself to think, work-out like a maniac, and blog my life away. So until then, I haven't forgotten y'all, my blogger family. I will stop by your blogs & leave comments once I'm done this phase of the madness.


Friday, April 10, 2009

Western Civilization, Ojuju Calabar, & African Superstitious Beliefs

My Mind is in over-drive & I can't help it. There are so many things I'd like to yarn about but I'll keep this entry short.

First, so how did the 'West' take manage conquer the whole world? I know there have been so many propositions as to why they managed to basically assimilate the entire globe into their fold. But how did they really do it? I was thinking to myself. For example, how can a small country like Portugal, common portugal manage to colonize Brazil, a whole Brazil? It boggles my mind because now Brazilians, Angolans, Cape Verdeans & so many other small pockets of people speak Portuguese.

Or take the more popular example, the U.K. That tiny mass of land. How did they manage to imprint English on nearly the entire world? And they were not even that many back then. As I sit here typing this entry, I wonder what the world would've been like if the West had not conquered the rest. Perhaps what if we were living in an African Paradigm, where Yoruba or Swahili was the more popular global lingua franca. What would civilization look like? I dunno how the West take manage conquer the whole world but this leads me to another matter.

Ojuju Calabar oyoyo oyoyo. I can only speak from a Nigerian viewpoint. I know that things like witchcraft, mammy wata, ogbanje, abiku, jinns, and ritual killings are very real and affect the daily lives of people. But I can't stop wondering why we (sub-Saharan Africans in general, but Nigerians in particular) are so tied to these ancestral beliefs and old world patterns of thought. In a very general sense, it seems to me that progress usually comes with the overthrow of one generation or the passing along of one wind of change. So perhaps the only real development or growth we can expect to see in Naija will happen when we have moved beyond the stage of 'superstitious beliefs' and beyond the era of paying homage to ancestral deities. Again, I will not generalize to all Nigerians on this issue since many people are quite 'progressive' but I bet a bunch of y'all know what I'm on about. Y'all know about that aunty in the village you've been warned about, or how we don't like telling people the day we're traveling so they don't go & plan for you on the highway (or whichever way you plan to travel).

In the end, I won't deny it - I'm caught up in a half-way house. I have been socialized in a western civilization, I speak English, I think in English, I write in English, I catch myself using words like 'uncivilised', 'barbaric' sometimes to describe things that seem...well, quite barbaric to me; such as the killing of twins, maiming of albinos, e.t.c. But these things were are happening in Africa.

And yet, I culturally subscribed to these things by having a strong awareness of their existence in reality. I remember my mom warning me some years ago to be careful about my friend whom she suspected had ogbanje. This suspicion was because of the girl's erratic behaviour. Needless to say, I wasn't ever really friends with that girl anymore. Call me paranoid or whatever, but I didn't feel like joining any night-time flying squad just yet.

Friday, March 27, 2009


First off, I was awarded the 'Honest Scrap' honour by Parakeet. Who has bestowed upon me the priviledge to air out my dirty laundry - for the whole world to know the kind of dirty secrets I keep in my closet. I will try to be as brief as possible, even though many of these tales require very long narratives. I feel very honoured by this opportunity...blah blah blah (I'm supposed to brag about the award...see how modest I am being?)

Rules about this award:
1.You must brag about it
2.You must include the name of the blogger who bestowed the award on you and link back to the blogger
3.You must choose a minimum of seven (7) blogs that you find brilliant in content or design. Or improvise by including bloggers who have no idea who you are because you don’t have seven friends (lol).
4.Show the seven random victims’ names and links and leave a harassing comment informing them that they were prized with Honest Weblog. Well, there’s no prize, but they can keep the nifty icon.
5.List at least ten (10) honest things about yourself. Then pass it on!

1) I fantasize about being with a white boy. I find some white men so attractive and imagine what it'll fill like running my hand through their hair. I like blonde guys with wavy hair. I especially like the blonde-hazel eyes combo. It's sad because when I was 'seeing' this one white guy, I felt no physical attraction towards him whatsoever. He was fun to talk to & we hung out A LOT but there just wasn't anything there. Oh well, there goes my 1st confession.
2) I have only been to 1 country in Africa (Nigeria), yet some people refer to me as 'The Africa Expert'. I take the compliment most times but I usually wonder, like seriously people, read a book, surf the web, or read the news sometime & maybe you'll learn a thing or two about Africa. And the strangest thing about this label is that it has come from fellow Nigerians! Like, are you kidding me? you don't know where Central African Republic is? No? Ok, how about looking at the friggin centre of the map, eh?! LOL. Anyway...Africa is a big place, I didn't expect you to know that Egypt wasn't in central africa!
3) I can't speak french to save my life, but I can pretend to know what you're saying if you speak to me in french. Ask me how I do it? I have no clue. I guess I've just been lucky and it wasn't a matter of life & death. For example, if I was in a situation where my Father was being auctioned at a market - I'd be there sheepishly nodding and saying "qui qui, incroyable!" I wouldn't have any clue that they were selling my Daddy.

4) My mind often wanders when people are talking to me. It's not like I do it on purpose or that they're talking nonsense. It's just...well, frankly I have no interest in what they're saying. If I am that bored to the point that while you speak to me I zone out; then you must be saying something really boring. I pride myself in being an attentive listener but for real, please help me out too! Talk about something less drone-like. Like how you saw a man with a blue shirt by the bus stop and how you kept thinking the shirt reminded you of your neighbour who lived across from your apt. 2 years ago. Umm...I don't f**king care! If you wanted the shirt so badly why didn't you rip it off his chest?? Oh, you didn't want the shirt? Ok. You saw your old neighbour at the mall? Oh ok. So why didn't you just say that in the 1st place rather than giving me a play-by-play of minutia. Urrggghhh!!!!
5) I am secretly digusted with wild raunchy sex. Yes, you heard me right. I don't like the idea of someone raining beads of sweat down on me. I think it's yucky & animalistic. I will not tolerate your sweat on my face. No! I don't sweat like that so neither should you. Learn to control your sweat glands for pete's sake.
6) I am claustrophobic. If I get on a bus/train that is crowded - I feel slightly tense. There are so many people, so many potential germs! I hold my breath & wait till the feeling subsides.

7) I am a germaphobe {you knew this was coming after that claustrophobia biznizz}. I am a 'Bleach Girl'. I will bleach everything in my house clean from kitchen counters to door handles. There will be no hiding place for germs in my home!
8) I secretly enjoy procastinating but it always comes back to bite me in the ass. I know this truth, but I still do it. Ask me why? I dunno but how dumb is that?! And I'm hear calling sweaty raunchy sex animalistic.

9) This meme is taking too long to complete.

10) I think I'm the sh!t 4real. Boys wanna do me, girls wanna be me, everybody loves me! Haha, who am I kidding, I'm that bitch. That bitch you hate on, that bitch your man will fall in love with, that bitch who you always knew YOU would become. LOL...I kid, I kid. I'm that girl your mom encouraged you to befriend, because she got As & had a clean reputation. But the real question is: who am I? that's the secret I'll never tell...gossip girl

xo Anya

P.S: I'm supposed to tag 7 other bloggers in this meme, so if you're reading this - consider yourself TAGGED!

P.P.S: I tag
Bastille of Beauty

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Ink-BLOT...my subconscious rant

Did you ever take an ink-blot test? I took one a few years ago & it was pretty intense. I discovered that my subconscious is tuned into sexual thoughts of gratification. For example, sometimes when I think about something, it can automatically take on a sexual innuendo. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this tendency. There are a lot of people who think about sexual thoughts like me all the time. We are not that rare...but we are sacred. Yes, I said it...extraordinary people.

I'm really just bored and horny. Haven't got any in about 6 months. Body no be wood. Broke up with the X-Boy, trying to move on to other things, I can't be bothered. Today im fantasizing that i'm going to get some from him. Why? because I can. The p3nis was so good, I would sell my entire shoe collection to own it. And I have a lot of shoes.
You say not a reasonable offer? Ok, I'll sell my laptop too just to get it.
Still not good enough? frig, I'll even sell my roommate for a year's supply of d!ck. Kai and I love my roommate... :(
One thing I won't sell though is my soul. D!ck is not worth my precious soul.

X-Boy has said if I want his penis that badly, then we have to get back together. He says he misses me terribly and that he doesn't think there's anyone out there for him like me. I'm flattered but hell no.
We had too many complications in our history. 1st of all, his randy ass wasn't ready to get serious when I was with him. And I wasn't even asking for a diamond key to unlock my heart. I just wanted us to be in a committed & exclusive relationship. Is that too much to ask? I seriously doubt it.
It was a long-distance situation so he wanted to fuck around, y'know; get as much tail as he could with the ladies. But alas! homeboy has gotten with the program. Now he wants to own my uterus. Fuck that! I'm not about to surrender my vulva to anyone just yet. Just because you've had your fill of fornication doesn't mean i'd be waiting for you to come & rescue me. Why do some guys think that their love is worth a Universe? I mean seriously...i don't want you no more. I'd rather play by myself than think about ever shagging up with you again.

Anyhow...I'm ranting. And like I said, body no be wood. Plus being bored & horny doesn't help either. And I can't shag up with any random...there has to (or have been) some kinda affection there, y'know. I dunno how other people do it but one-night stands are definitely not my thing.
So yes, even after all my ranting I think I'm just going to get it from the X-Boy. yes, you heard me right. I have been d!ckmatized & I liked it.

P.S: I know my first paragraph & picture have absolutely nothing to do with this rant. But I don't care. I digress all the time. Tangents are my thing. Call me Anya-Tangentsia or Tangy-Anya... Anya & her ramblings... rants & raves by her royal highness: Anya Posh IV. Oh shit, i'm doing it again. Urrghh whatev.. have a good weekend, my fellow d!ck lovers!

P.P.S: This post is completely unlike me. I'll probably delete it very soon. I think I was under the influence of Ogbanje/Stress when I wrote this last night. But then I posted it anyway. What is wrong with me? HAHAHAHA!!!

P.P.P.S: And so the post stays up!

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Nigerian Pubic Hair

"Same sex marriage, apart from being ungodly, is also unscriptural, unnatural, unprofitable, unhealthy, uncultural, un-African and un-Nigerian," - The Anglican Church of Nigeria.

Yes, I personally believe that although same sex relations are unscriptual and uncultural, they are indeed profitable (if not, why would people do it...sex is sex - atleast somebody cums in the end), can be healthy (condoms, dental dams, monogamous partnerships), Africans do it & Nigerians are no exception.

Today, I was reading the news about how the Nigerian Government has bid to outlaw same sex marriages. What is all this fuss about anyway??? You can outlaw it, but people are still going to engage in those relationships.

Personally, I have seen gay men & women in action in Abuja. In Wuse market, I saw 2 igbo-speaking men sitting together holding hands & smiling at each other sheepishly. Then one of them proceeded to sit on the other's lap. If that is not overt gayness, then I dunno what is. Similarly, there are lesbians in Nigeria. Ask any girl who went to one of those all-girls' boarding school & I bet you they would have a lot of stories about girl on girl action. So the issue is no longer about whether there are gay/bisexual people in Nigeria. The underlying tension is why people get so agitated & are trying to criminalise such diabolical taboo relations.

So how do we solve this one? Do you think this is a case where the State is prying too much into the affairs of the Nation's bedrooms? Or is this a case of maintaining Nigerian government's hypocritical stance, that homosexuality does not exist in Nigeria?

I know this issue is insanely controversial, especially in the Nigerian community, but I don't care. Speak to it.

xoxo Anya

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Thai-Style Egg Fried RIce

My dear bloggerians, I have a confession to make.

I did not creatively come up with that fried rice on my own. I found the recipe online. Click here for the best tutorial in video format. That demonstration is better than anything I could've written for you. Plus, it's really easy to make too. In fact, because I'm so bored with Nigerian dishes & the ingredients are really hard to come by, I have resigned to the mainstream grocery store to fulfill my nutrition needs. For me, it started becoming a real chore to drive for about 2hrs to get to an "ethnic" food store in either Toronto, Brampton, or Mississauga just to find pounded yam, or crayfish, or uyayak, or palm oil, e.t.c.

Anyhow, these days I eat whatever's handy...lots of pitas, wraps, salads, pot roast, indian cuisine, & so on. My new housemate is from Hong Kong, so recently we've been swapping cooking secrets & meals too :D He makes amazing things I tell ya! The man can cook. So I hope you're able to make this Thai-style egg fried rice, it was really delicious.


P.S: Goodluck

Monday, February 16, 2009

I didn't forget...

I didn't forget to blog. I've visited several blogs, even commented profusely on some of them but I haven't felt the push to post an entry of my own here. I don't know what it is. I've had interesting things happening in my life recently; so much to talk about but none of them seemed blog-worthy.
I bet those people who know me will beg to differ because some pretty serious things have happened. Anyway, I think those things are irrelevant right now.

So what do we talk about today? Well, today is a public holiday - Family Day, in Canada. The Canadian government had to create an excuse so that people will spend time with their loved ones. Well, i'm not complaining, I needed this break too. It's a good break from work, grad school stress, and the daily routine oF my mundane life.

Oh in other news, Valentine's day has come & gone. It was uneventful here but I hardly even noticed. As a newly single gal, I thought it would be devastating but so far it was OK. I was too busy with homework to get the blues. My X-man called to chat proposing that we get back together. Now why on earth will I do that?! Garrgghh....like being alone on valentines would persuade me into running back into his waiting hands. God forbid! I've had enough of stress with that emotional rollercoaster. I have better things to do with myself these days.

Anyhow, moving on. So to get things going here again, I will respond to the tags I got a few weeks ago and then I will go make myself some dinner. Tonight i'm thinking Thai-style fried rice with roast pork on the side. Mmm mmm....good!

;) Anya

Sunday, January 18, 2009

The Year of the Bitch

Happy New Year Everyone!!!

If you haven't noticed already or felt the tinge of excitement in the air, 2009 is going to be amazing! I don't know exactly why just yet - but I do know that it is going to be a wonderful year. A year that will be equally challenging & invigorating. Cheers to the next 11/12 months!
As the title says, i'm tagging '09 as the year to re-showcase my inner Bitch. She's been stuck in the closet of Self for far too long now. So you may be wondering, what's Anya on about with this bitch-talk, well let me explain it to ya:

This is the year of *Being* In *Total* Control *of* Herself

This abbreviation was coined by Dr. V. Ashley but it has sufficed to fit perfectly with the way I'm going to attack approach this year. I've had enough of my own passivity in taking control of my life & the things that really matter. I've had enough of being a super-agreeable person but hurting myself in the process. I've had it with being too accomodating, too tolerant, too nice (too let's-keep-the-peace-don't-wanna-hurt-nobody's-precious-feelings!) - Oh, Anya's such a good listener...yada yada yada. I've had it with taking on everyone's problems; over-burdening myself with everyone's mishaps & forgetting to deal with my own problems. Enough! Enough!! Enough!!! ENOUGH!!!!!.
This is my time to quit whining about my hesitation to burst out the Bitch & just f**king DO IT!

So let me introduce myself, my name is Anya BadAssBitchIV Posh. I'm too opinionated, too assertive, too realistic, too über awesome for all your bullsh!t.

-A. Posh
Proud Member, Heartless Bitches International