Thursday, March 25, 2010

My Uterus & Jill Scott on Marriage my mini-hiatus is over, I'm back to continue sharing my thoughts with you. First let me tell you what I've been up to:

Today, I was reading Necole Bitchie, where she had a very insightful comment from Jill Scott's take on marriage & relationships. Jill Scott recently broke off her 2-year engagement with her fiancé and baby-daddy.

She tells Vibe:
"I don’t think I’ll get married again. I’m not looking for it. What I can say about my divorce and my failed engagement is that I learned where my bar is. I used to pray for a man who had potential, but that’s not my prayer anymore. Not only does he have to have potential, he has to have had accomplished some things in his life. He has to have a work ethic, because I don’t want to come home to someone sitting on the sofa playing PlayStation. I’m looking for someone who works as hard as I do. Who loves their work as much as I do, so at the end of the night we have something real to talk about, something exciting that makes our blood flow and boil. I need my man to be my homie. If you can’t help me grow, there’s no point with you being in my life."
This babe is making too much sense abeg. I mean honestly, I know I'll be a good catch to any deserving man as per wife matters. But I don't just want to be with someone just because I'm good for them. I want them also to be good for me. Do you feel me? It's not a enough that I should be supportive, caring, and warm to a man. He has to be all those things to me as well. 

Last week, I had a bad case of migraines. I dunno what triggered them but it was followed by my Uterus deciding to fall out! Yes...Aunt Flo thought it'll be a cool idea to visit during my busiest week of the year! I had to mark exams, finish 3 chapters of my dissertation, and still go about like the world was a happy place. I was completely unimpressed with the moon and all things monthly

Speaking of periods, has anyone tried the DIVA/MOON cup? It's that conical cup made from silicone which you insert into your vagina to collect your Uterus chunks (menstruation - this word is so un-sexy!). I hear the diva cup is very earth-friendly (green) and cost-effective. Can you imagine all the money I'd be saving instead of monthly purchases on regular pads, overnight pads, regular tampons, super tampons, panti-liners, and thong-liners! Imagine if all that money was spent treating myself to a spa date once a month or better yet, donating it to a local charity? Hmm... I'm going to look into that Diva Cup business.
 That's the relative size of the cup. It's very bendable since it's made of silicone. The cup is folded vertically and inserted into the vaginal cavity like a tampon.

After insertion into the vagina, apparently you're no longer supposed to feel the cup. After 6-8 hours, the cup should be taken out by the bottom handle and emptied down the toilet drain (eek!). It can be cleansed by rinsing with hot water. And after your period is over, the cup may be sanitized by boiling.

And for all those ladies (& gents) who cringe at the discussion of periods, what is the big deal anyway?! I don't understand the hush-hush taboo around periods as if it's something abnormal. Periods are like the most normal thing about people, just like eating, sleeping, poo-ing, e.t.c

Anyway, those have been the kinda things on my mind this week. I'm looking into seriously pursuing a new hobby; maybe photography or cooking. I'm not sure yet but summer's coming and I cannot be idle! Any ideas for fun hobbies?


neefemi said... Jill is in my head, thats the essence of it right diva cups for me o, just seems like too much wahala...and yea try cooking, its always fun to taste what you have made...

blogoratti said...

Jill scott..truly deserves better! All in all, we live and learn.

Anonymous said...

Why not both? Cookery and photography. Cook something nice, take great pics, post them up, and enjoy making the rest of us drool.

yankeenaijababe said...

I need the cup for my menstrual bla bla, are you sure it will work. Sounds good to me

Jaycee said...

LOL @ Periods are like the most normal thing about people, just like eating, sleeping, poo-ing, e.t.c

Ms.O said...

The thanx! I have a friend that swears by them though!!! Jill is just Too fab! COOK AND TAKE PICTURES LIKE ME!!!!

Lady X said...

Yeah in Naija people talk about periods like they are embarrassing. And of course you're a "bad" girl if you tell a boy anything about your period. Ooh I don't think I could use that cup. I have never even used a tampon.

leggy said...

im taking summer classes so no hobbies to be pursued on my side.yup, that girl you quoted made real sense.

AJ said...

Jill Scott spoke the truth!
On the Mooncup, I swear by it! I have heavy periods, so I have to change it every 2-4 hoursm but other than that...freedom!

Anonymous said...

diva cup.....ewwwwwwwwwwwwww!!will def not ever try it...So i will now pur the blood and rinse the cup!!YUCK!!Good ol tampon that i flush down the toilet is enough for me.

asper Jill scott...true talk

LucidLilith said...

I think i just threw up in my mouth.
So what if the junk goes back up the other way? Can you say toxic shock syndrome?

Plus: I love Jill Scott. She is so beautiful.

mizchif said...

iLove. Jill made so much sense there.
Been thinking the same lately, it's only fair to expect as good as you give. So if you can be all these wonderful things, why shouldn't you expect the same from your partner.

Yea and periods are NORMAL! As normal as peeing. But err....that Divacup DO NOT sound so divalicious biko. Emptying ke? I'll pass. Tenks.

Oh and cooking sounds like a great hobby.

Myne Whitman said...

I love the words from Jill Scott. Word indeed! As for the Diva cup, heard about it but don't think I want to try it. I would rather not see those chunks, I talk about it though.

Have a good weekend

Nice Anon said...

That is why it is always good to marry someone on the same level or higher than you. No thanks to diva cup!

Shona Vixen said...

"I need my man to be my homie. If you can’t help me grow, there’s no point with you being in my life." - I co-sign that statement by Jill Scott!!She's said it all!!!
Hmmm diva cup - I have a thing about the sight of blood that makes me ultra-nauseous(yes I am a woman and each month I'm sick!!) sooo nah that wouldnt do for me...

The CultureCynic said...

Yup, whoever your mate is their hussle has to match and complement yours otherwise resentment sets in, eyes start to wander. the idea that we have to settle for 'potential' is all wack, men know what they want in women, but when it comes to choosing , women are encouraged to settle because apparently there is a scarcity of good men to which i say whathefuckever. i appreciate her her perspective, it is refreshing to hear her speak her mind on it.

and about that cup thingy, ewwwwwwwwwwww i dont want!!!

later bbz, and I seeeeee you on CC..thnx:)

p.s Hi babes!

Mamuje said...

To think I ONLY just found your blog... how come?

I am feeling Jill Scott. She did the right thing to kick his ass to the curb. I am not looking for potential. I need a man to provide for me. He should bring home BREAD. Cos I am already making bread. Shikena

Lets talk about those silicon cups later :)

Chi-Chi said...

If I'm not mistaken this blog was put on privacy setting before?
if so I'm super glad its over lol
Jill Scott made so much sense right there!
plus I'll stick with pads for now, I'm still not into tampons as a matter of fact

NakedSha said...

YAAAAY, Someone else who thinks talking about periods is NORMAL. Yes, bless your heart and mine too 'cos we're normal.

But that cup thing...blank face.

YEY! Periods are part of every normal girl and it's okay to talk about them.

OMG, I'm so thrilled, someone else finally!